Turning Points - luck or planning?

In the beginning . . .

When I was 19, living in CT, I moved in with a boyfriend for 2.5 years. That relationship ran its course and my reputation was shot so I moved to Texas.

After a bit, I met another man who I moved in with for 1.5 years before that turned sour.

These were my drinking years.

When I got into recovery from drugs and alcohol, I decided to give up men too.

My picker was broken you see.

So I took a break from dating and worked on myself for a good year before I moved back home to CT at 25.

But when I was still living in TX, I came home to CT for a wedding when I was 9 months sober and met Paul at a meeting.

The Mustard Seed

He gave me a mustard seed to remind me to have faith, which I promptly put in a heart locket I wore around my neck.

A few months later, 2000 miles away from him in my Austin apartment, I opened the locket and saw that the seed had started to grow. There was a little fuzz and a root had sprung. I tossed it aside and let it go. But faith in myself was on the rise.

I moved back to CT a few months later and met Paul again a year after he had planted that seed in my heart.

We reconnected at an AA dance and it was fireworks from the get-go. My mind told me to run the other way but I was smitten so I allowed myself to fall in love.

However, during that year alone, I had made a deal with myself that I would never again move in with another man without a promise of marriage. I had already shared this with Paul in our first few months of dating.

About 5 months into our relationship I was living with my Mom back at our family home in Windsor and Paul had a small apartment in Vernon. His lease was about to expire and he was thinking of moving to Nantucket believe it or not, but I didn't know because he hadn't shared this with me.

An Opportunity

Meanwhile, a girlfriend called me and said, "I'm so excited! I just bought my first home and it's a duplex in East Hartford. Do you know anyone who needs an apartment?"

Before I could even think I heard myself say "Yes, I do." She said, "Who?" and I said "ME!"

I swear to God I could not believe my ears. I was taken aback because my heart had spoken before my mind could even realize what was being said. That's the only way I know how to describe it.

She was so excited and happy with my answer. My mind kicked in and asked for details and I told her I needed to ask Paul first and would get back to her.

I then immediately called Paul. My heart was beating hard and fast in my chest. Would he go for it? I wasn't asking for marriage but another living together situation.

Should I hold out?

When he answered the phone I blurted out "Do you want to live with me?"

He didn't even need to hear the details of where, he just said "YES!"

We painted it, fixed it up a bit, and moved in Feb 1, 1987. Then, six weeks later on March 18th, he asked me to marry him.

The conspiring Universe

It felt like the Universe was conspiring to get us together. My friend called me first about the duplex, Paul's lease was up, I had made my mind up that we wouldn't live together before marriage and yet . . . it all happened so perfectly "in the flow" of our life.

Was it luck that I found him? Was it destiny?

It didn't feel planned and created. Yet, we had both been single AND clean and sober, working on ourselves individually, for 18 months before we got together.

We were ready for each other.

He had literally planted a seed in my heart while we still lived 2000 miles apart. I didn't even really know him at that point.

So many weird and amazing things have happened in our lifetime together. We kept taking steps and growing together and individually.

Turning points and quantum leaps sometimes happened seemingly out of the blue.

I can say for certain that life is mysterious. And it unfolds in amazing ways while we are setting goals and making plans.

And plan we must.

It's always a good idea to work to create a life you love. Strive and set goals, move forward, and shift when necessary. Know what you want.

We both wanted a healthy loving relationship.

So we are co-creators of our lives here in the world.

Yet our Higher Selves are always working in the background, and somehow provide serendipity which looks like luck, to surprise and delight us.

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Look for the miracles in your life. And see how the Universe is conspiring to help you. Are you at a turning point?

All my best,

Maureen

"In reality, serendipity accounts for one percent of the blessings we receive in life, work, and love. The other 99 percent is due to our efforts." 

~ Peter McWilliams"

Serendipity always rewards the prepared." 

~ Katori Hall

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